Thoughts

I don’t really like to do these in my Instagram stories, but I’ll do it here. For a long time, music was my world. And now I don’t care as much for it as I did.

1. A song you like with a color in the title: “Silver Springs” – Fleetwood Mac
2. A song you like with a number in the title: “Thirteen” – Big Star
3. A song that reminds you of summertime: “Motorcycle Drive By” – Third Eye Blind
4. A song that reminds you of someone you’d rather forget: “A Case of You” – Joni Mitchell
5. A song that needs to be played loud: “Sam’s Town” – The Killers
6. A song that makes you want to dance: “Call Your Girlfriend” – Robyn
7. A song to drive to: “Take Me Home, Country Roads” – John Denver
8. A song about drugs or alcohol: “Black Balloon” – Goo Goo Dolls
9. A song that makes you happy: “Breakin’ Up” – Rilo Kiley
10. A song that makes you sad: “Evaporated” – Ben Folds Five
11. A song you never tired of: “Terrible Vision” – Rhett Miller
12. A song from your preteen years: “I’ll Make Love to You” – Boyz II Men
13. A song you like with from the 70s: “What A Fool Believes” – The Doobie Brothers
14. A song you’d love to be played at your wedding: “That One Night” – Hunter
15. A song you like that’s covered by another artist: “We Will Become Silhouettes” – The Postal Service
16. A song you that’s a classic favorite: “The End of the World” – Skeeter Davis
17. A song you’d sing a duet with someone at karaoke: “Jackson” – Johnny Cash & June Carter
18. A song from the year you were born: “Total Eclipse of the Heart” – Bonnie Tyler
19. A song that makes you think about life: “A Comet Appears” – The Shins
20. A song that has many meanings to you: “Cruel World” – Willie Nelson
21. A song you like with a person’s name in the title: “Helena” – Nickel Creek
22. A song that makes you move forward: “A Better Version of Me” – Fiona Apple
23. A song you think everybody should listen to: nature
24. A song by a band you wish were still together: “More Adventurous” – Rilo Kiley
25. A song you like by an artist no longer living: “Everyday” – Buddy Holly
26. A song that makes you want to fall in love: “Sometimes” – Rhett Miller
27. A song that breaks your heart: “Wheel” – John Mayer
28. A song by an artist whose voice you love: “Fallingwater” – Maggie Rogers
29. A song you remember from your childhood: “Bad” – Michael Jackson
30. A song that reminds you of yourself: “Hand Me Down” – The Wallflowers
31. A song that comforts your soul: “Round Here” – Counting Crows

Well shit. This time I actually forgot. Last night we spilled red wine on our expensive sofa, and ended up going to Walmart late at night to pick up an extractor. Normally I wouldn’t go there but it was the only local-ish place (it was 3 towns over) that had what I needed and was still open at that time.

But really… I’m a little bit stressed at the moment. There are some things happening that are making me a bit worried about what’s going to happen. And I’m trying not to worry about it too much. I had an anxiety dream last night that was totally connected to it.

I missed last Monday. I sort of didn’t know what to talk about that didn’t get too personal.

I took a sleeping pill just before I started this. I’m trying to get more sleep in my life. I have a feeling it will make my life better. I learned recently that because I can usually fall asleep within less than 5 minutes, I am severely sleep-deprived. So why the sleeping pill? My problem isn’t falling asleep; it’s staying asleep. There are various reasons I wake up in the night. I’m naturally a light sleeper. I wake up from pain. I wake up after every REM cycle. It’s not good sleep, ever.

I haven’t had a good night of sleep in years. I don’t know that I know what it feels like.

So anyway, let’s talk about what I’ve been listening to lately. I’ve been listening to the Red Dead Redemption 2 soundtrack. The one produced by Daniel Lanois.  “Cruel World” makes me want to die just so you can play it at my funeral. “Red” just legit makes me want to cry. Maybe it’s because of the context in which the song was written.

I really can’t wait for the next part of the soundtrack to be released because I (and the whole internet) want this song:

I’ve also been listening to Skeeter Davis a lot.

I’ve been thinking pretty heavily about preparedness for that last year. The earthquakes from last week were nothing unexpected. I just thought they would have been bigger and closer to LA. And after one happens, you always feel pretty shook because you know it could have been worse. This is especially if you’ve ever lived through one. The San Andreas Fault is overdue for a large earthquake and it will happen, and likely soon. I feel like a doomsday prepper when I think about all the stuff in my Amazon cart waiting to be purchased. How devastating can an earthquake be? Northridge was pretty devastating for us, but we had shelter. I have tarps, bungee cords and duct tape in my Amazon cart. I have camping supplies, an emergency radio and solar chargers. I got glass tint so that if the window shatters, it won’t scatter shards all over my face.  I only have water for 2 days, a first aid kit for humans and one for the cat, non perishable food in the cupboards that I always make sure is well-supplied. The hard part is I also have a storage problem. But I have no idea if it’s enough. When will I feel sheltered enough from the thing I cannot predict?

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As I was driving home from work today, I was thinking a lot about luck.  There is so much in the world that is determined by forces beyond our own control, so many things that have been given to us because of the decisions of generations before us, and the mere existence of humans as they are for such a short time in the history of the Earth and universe. I can appreciate how little control I have over 95% of my life. There’s something peaceful about that.

Some months after my dad passed away, my mom decided to move out of the home I grew up in. There were nearly 40 years of things hiding away in every nook and cranny. We finally started to go through my dad’s things. I knew what we’d expect to find for the most part (besides tools). But the things we weren’t expecting were even more puzzling. But it gave me some glimpse into what he did when none of us were around.

The things we expected:

1. My dad’s gun. Yes he had a gun – and he always had it tucked away in his closet. It was a really beautiful, white, antique Colt 45 revolver with a pearl handle. I know he never intended to use this gun, even for protection, but my dad liked nice things. He liked things that were shiny and pretty.
2. His Rolex. This went to my brother.
3. His college ring.
4. Old Playboys.
5. A gold bracelet with his name “Tony” engraved into it. I kept this.
6. Math and engineering books.
7. His leather jacket. Now something about this leather jacket is that it still, to this day, smells like him. It’s the smell of tanned leather and tobacco. This was his “going out” jacket for as long as I can remember, even well into a few years before his death. It fit him perfectly and it was styled more like a Members Only jacket, not a motorcycle jacket. I remember the smell of it when he would carry me as a sleeping child from the car into the house and into bed. I find it funny that he had a jacket that was very specifically a jacket he never wore for working and only when he would go out to a party or to a nice dinner (that didn’t need a suit jacket). And now I have a jacket that’s similar. When I bought it, I vowed to never wear it to work – it was only for going out to parties and dinners.

The things we didn’t expect:

Two swords — one katana and one flame-bladed sword.

Like… why?